4 years later WAS friend "waking up" :(

[RMG77739]

But the selfishness can definitely be exasperating.

ROT,

This is very true....... I found my exW was all about her... Her "happiness"..... Her wants..... Her needs.....

I wonder how she will feel deep down when she comes across pictures of our brand spanking new home with all of the upgrades... Thinking "what if".... Oh, I am sure she will still be happy with her decision....

RMG

[runningoutoftime]

Perhaps this is what was meant to be all along, and your XW did you a favor. It may not have been the nicest way to do it, but this was suppose to happen. This third wife is the one you were meant to be with.

[RMG77739]

Perhaps this is what was meant to be all along, and your XW did you a favor. It may not have been the nicest way to do it, but this was suppose to happen. This third wife is the one you were meant to be with.

ROT,

I am not worrying about what exW is doing...... I am really focused on what is going on in my life and M............

Did she do me a favor? I really think she did me the biggest favor ever......

exW was simply not a motivated, positive person.... Her big thing was holding on to her Federal job and doing as little work there as possible.... Plus, she was just not supportive of me in my career......... I really think she had fear that as I climbed the ladder, I would find I require a "better" woman....

Anyways, my whole point is I think she will "wake up" someday.....

RMG

[runningoutoftime]

In some ways it's easier for the WAS, we aren't left with that regret.

[RMG77739]

In some ways it's easier for the WAS, we aren't left with that regret.

ROT,

I am a bit confused with what you wrote......

I personally think the WAS has a MUCH easier time initially...

WASs are off having a grand old time doing whatever...........

I think when reality sets in for WAS two to five years later...........

WASs really have regrets..........

It may not even be the WASs wish their M had worked.......

I think the WASs regret at least not trying.................

The LBS has a hellacious time at first.........

I gets easier little by little for LBS.....

The LBS eventually realizes he or she did everything they could....

The LBS eventually lets go....

The WASs, I believe, will have that lingering regret.... Wondering "what if".................

RMG

[runningoutoftime]

Ooops!!! meant LBS (my finger's are dyslexic!). In some ways this is easier for us. We aren't left with that regret because we didn't do the walking.

RMG, you expressed my thoughts perfectly.

[RMG77739]

ROT,

I had an interesting discussion with my friend Wes this morning. We began with the Presidential race. I told him I could NEVER vote for McCain because of how he treated his first wife.

Wes went on to say two of his close friends were divorced. Both had their spouse leave for "greener grass".... What happened in BOTH cases? The adulterous spouse came crawling back.....

The LBS both told their exes they NEVER wanted to D...... However, since it happened, they had NO DESIRE to try again..... That was that....

Now, the one LBS is happily remarried.... The other LBS is still single........

I thought you may find that little story interesting....

Take Care,

RMG

[whitelight]

I detest Mccain for the same reason.