nds. You are rebuilding. Take that and make it your new perspective. Cause I have to say, I agree with the others that have expressed this same viewpoint.
I laugh...if only we could see in our own sitch what everyone else sees. It would make it so much easier.
Too close sometimes I guess....like when I used to notice that my wife's hair was different and mentioned how much I liked it...and she says "thanks, it's been like that for a week"....LOL.
Sometimes it is just the pessimist in me that comes out...the glass is half empty guy, like Bill said. That is something I have struggled with all my life. Believe it or not my sitch has actually helped me. In the beginning all I could see was a positive outcome, no matter which way things went. I know that helped me in other areas of my life even though the R with my wife weighed on me.
Now I think it's more a matter of patience then anything else. In my heart I feel her and see the interactions...and know that she would hurt just as much as me if we were apart. It is just not knowing how committed she is to still being alone that gets me from time to time.
I know where the next steps need to be....house..home..finances and normalcy in our daily lives. We talk all the time about our health, eating and drinking habits...exercise. I know where she wants to be in all of that, and I think if I were to make the move in the right direction, she would follow along just as easily as with the all the partying and fun stuff.
That is where I was supposed to be taking this months ago, but we just have been too wrapped up in having fun....have to make the other things fun, that's all.
