I just wanted to clarify....has your H actually said he is working on the M and staying with you? That he is no longer going to have contact with OW?
and I can't help but notice that you never answered her. Sort of like a month or so ago when you avoided my direct and awkward question:
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Have you made any decisions about what you'd like to do re: emotional and physical closeness with your husband, in light of your current situation?
a) ignore the weekend like nothing happened, and go back to being distant
b) ignore the weekend like nothing happened, and try to stay close emotionally and physically
c) talk to him about the weekend, say it was a mistake, and go back to being distant
d) talk to him about the weekend, say it was nice and desireable, and vow to try to stay close emotionally and physically
e) other??
I'm curious as to what you think. You either need a new plan, or some resolve to get back to the OLD plan, IMHO.
and, after not responding to that one either, I asked you again, and you finally said:
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Puppy, I didn't want to ignore your question. We didn't really ignore the topic of what happened over the weekend. We didn't do a lot of talking about it either though. It happened and it didn't seem to scare him away. He's kept in touch. I know that probably doesn't seem like an answer you were looking for but nothing really came of it. It just happened. . . .
I know I've let H get closer the past week and yes, it will hurt all over again if I let it continue and he just walks all over me again. I've seen that side to him lately that I love. It's been hard staying distant from that.
