Yes single.....I don't want to beat this..but there is NO WAY to get them back with conversation, comments, etc.
The reason we let go is not to 'give up'...but to stop trying to fix and to refocus on OURSELVES. When we let go, we allow ourselves even just an eensy beensy bit of room to stop our hurt and redirect and grow. The longer you hold onto to hope, the more you will feel pain.
Overall, they don't come back to us after splitting up by anything WE DO to AFFECT THEM. They come back ..if they do..when they realize they've made a mistake or that what they are going to lose is far greater than what they will gain.
Sadly, tho', most of our WAW's will never see this and they are lost to us. The key here is to recognize that by not holding onto the hope of reconciliation...whic is oftimes a form of denial.
Should you 'give up' per se? No.
You should let go and grieve the loss. Run. Talk to us here...your closest friends...whatever works for you. By grieving it and letting go, you actually improve your chances in a sense. You stop pursuit. You stop comments that can be taken the wrong way. You have more time and emotional strength to make changes.
No more need for comments to 'bring her back'. No need to defend yourself. No need to sell her on how marriage is much better as a united family. Won't work.
Stay strong. We support you. FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
