My national title hopes for the Ducks have been dashed by some college called Boise State. I guess we should all root on USC to win it all. The Trojans schedule ahead is all the Oregon, Washington and Arizon teams over the next 6 weeks.
USC is so much better than the rest of the conference it really isn't fair. For that matter, they are so much better than the rest of college football too.
Can you believe my Dawgs are 3 1/2 point favorites to beat Stanford? I can't believe they are favored to beat anyone!
I took the day off as I had to be in court over the situation w/ the dogs. We argued our points to the judge and he denied the motion to have it dismissed, but he was very clear that the city will have to find a vet who can definitely say w/ no uncertainty that the dogs were in trouble. Even my vet said he couldn't make that determination w/out a rectal thermometer to take their temperatures at the time.
So, I'm still reliving this nightmare of an action when I had a massive brain fart earlier this year and I'm just hoping it can be resolved in my favor. We have a bench trial in this case set for Nov. 3rd and my L is thinking things went very well for us this morning. The chances of a vet being able to do this is very slim, so that is good.
We also talked about doing a deferred prosecution where this is tabeled for a year and then destroyed if my behavior is good. That would be an excellent option for me b/c even though I felt good that the judge was saying things look good for us to prevail, I'd rather not take that chance as it may screw w/ my ability to get re-licensed as an educator. So, that is a cleared hurdle for now w/ more to come on this later.
As for contact w/ W, she sent an e-mail today asking when I'd like to see D this weekend as D has a "party" w/ all her old friends from her original daycare.
I told W that I understand she wants weekend time w/ D, which is why I agreed to last weekend. However, since I can only see her on the weekends until the house sells, I want to have more than 24 hours w/ her so I'd like to get her from school on Friday and drop her off Sunday at 5 pm. We'll wait and see the response to this one.
Finally, the parenting evaluator at last called and spoke w/ my C and asked him some general questions about me. My C and I discussed this yesterday and the overall impression my C received was quite positive on my behalf. My C said it was encouraging, so I'm very stoked about that. This could mean a favorable ruling for me concerning custody of my D.
Now will come the hard part as I'm still stuck here in this house trying to get it sold. We'll have another open house this Saturday while I take D to the party at Chuck E. Cheese and hopefuly we'll get someone to like it enough to make us an offer we can live with. Due to the market, we'll most likely will need to have someone who has been looking for a while and knows what is available before we'll get a serious bite. We had someone that fit that description come through last Saturday and we're waiting to get the buyers back in town as they have been narrowing down their list. I'm hoping we've made their final cut.
So, that's my story. I'm going to film a commercial for Ashley Furniture this afternoon, so my day off from work will actually be profitable for me. If only they'd cut the checks right away as cash flow and I aren't getting along too well w/ me holding the house up on my own.
Got a reply from W on getting D this weekend. W said "of course you'll get more than 24 hours b/c it is your 'long weekend'."
What a crock of crap that is. Her world will be severely disrupted if the parenting evaluation comes down in my favor. I'm guessing this is a ploy by her and her L to try and show the court that our current arrangement is "working fine" so there is no need to alter it at all.
Well, if I'm awarded 50% physical custody, I've decided I won't disrupt my D's schooling, but I'll make the sacrifice in commuting for her benefit. However, I'm going to ask for W to help me pay 1/2 the oosts of upkeeping the house (mortgage, etc.) until it is sold and then I'll be able to move closer to D.
I'm also going to bring up the need for an alternative morning drop-off for D so I can make sure to be at work on time every morning when I have her. I'm also going to see if I can get any money from W b/c I'm going to be the one w/ the extra driving and time sacrifice due to the decisions she's made w/out my input about our D's schooling.
Finally, I'm waiting to hear back from my L on what they've said about taking a polygraph test to dispute all of W's BS. If she refuses, I'm going to ask for a written retraction b/c she shouldn't be allowed to slander my name w/out penalty. I was raised on the belief that there is no such thing as a free lunch, so I don't believe she has a right to get off w/out taking responsibility for her actions.
So, that is where I am today. I'm tired of her garbage and looking forward to finding out what the evaluator will say. That ruling will allow me to move forward w/ my life and plans for the future. If only I can combine a positive report from the parenting evaluator w/ a fair offer on my house, then I'd be set.
No matter what the final settlement of your D is, she will believe that she got screwed. You were supposed to disappear off the face of the earth and take all the debts with you--except at child support time when you would magically reappear long enough to send a check.
So while all of the lies she has told about you have been upsetting, you can take some comfort in knowing that your mere existence will ruin her day for the forseeable future. She really has given you a lot of power. At some point after the legal issues have been decided, you'll get past the anger and start to pity her for the broken person that she is.
The unfortunate part is that you'll have to work extra hard as a father to counterbalance the influence that her disfunction has on your daughter. In the end you'll be able to look back with pride and see the job you've done as a parent as your life's greatest accomplishment.
...and I'm crushed. The recommendation is for me to get D every other weekend and one overnight a week. I'm in disbelief over this as now I have 8 days a month to have an impact on my D's life.
I'm destroyed, but also angry. My W's case is completely built on lies and half truths, but the evaluator bought it completely. I'm being punished b/c I admitted my faults and have taken steps to correct them.
W's "fear" of me is the main reason for the decision. He also stated that he didn't think we could work well w/ each other which is why he can't rule for 50/50. I'm not the one who is difficult to work with in this case. W is being rewarded for being difficult and angry w/ me. What do I get for taking the high road? Nothing.
I'm stunned and angry at W. It isn't fair, but I'm a man so I must lose in this system of ours.
I am pissed at the system. However, the evaluator only makes a recommendation - the judge may see it differently and say BS to the evaluators justification. You L should be able to help calm you some now and let you know if your still have a chance for 50/50.
BTW... I bet the evaluator has a picture of that metrosexual man Joe Biden somewhere in their office.
