New Thread-Husband Moved in With OW(T2L)

[Trying2live]

Hello everyone! Another nightowl posting.

MLC isnt as much about their age as it is their state of mind. Our H never "sewed their wild oats", right?
We were their first "real girlfriends", right? Theyve always been insecure in nature, right? They've "had it" with the material things (AKA the house), right? My H HATES his job too, and like your H , is seeking out other ways to fulfill a meaningful purpose - your H wants to change careers/go back to school - and mine has completely immersed himself in baseball
(not only does he coach more than 1 team, he is also executive officer and treasurer for the league) and accepted responsibity for helping plan 20yr reuinon. Yes, they could be depressed, which led them to this sorry state. The problem is their ego wont let them admit it or seek the help they need. My H knows he needs help for his drinking, says he can help himself cuz he is of "strong mind". It's more like "strong pride".

I think maybe mine is little MLC too. Yes I am his 1st real girlfriend(high school sweetie). Yes he is insecure in nature, but outwardly you would never know. Yes Mine has always wanted more more more. He sabotages his jobs every few years. He's had a lot of them, but blames it on management. I totally believe in hindsight of course that he has been depressed for a long time but he blew it off as I don't get super excited about things this is how I am(I just believed it) but he was never in a state of what I would say is happiness. Yes mine was ultra prideful about getting any type of help. I mentioned to him b4 I found out about the A that we could get counseling and he objected saying counselors are messed up themselves and he doesn't need it. I have questioned him many times about his increased drinking over the last few years and he says he's fine. So funny how we all have the same tendencies. Mine isn't into baseball but now his whole life revolves around getting a tan!?!? I try not to think of why....But can't help it.

To tell you the truth guys I'm starting to question myself and why I want to have him back. I really need to know why, even if it is or is not possible. It's like he's got me on this back burner and he wants to do his thing and then come back when its over. He even told my D17 in the beginning of the mess in May that he just needs to ride this out? Did he mean to say see if this works out? My short term goal is 6 months. That's October 23rd. I have to look at the short b4 I can look at the long term goal which is 1 year. I know this is going to be a long haul thing.
I feel bad for even thinking of giving up this waiting game but for now I'm questioning all my motives of why I want this man back. Is it fear? Is it familiarity? Is it safety? Is it loneliness? Insecurity? Or am i just being impatient. Questions Questions Questions.

Aside of it all everyone sounds strong for under the circumstances. The support is great here.