Yes toward the end I got a little bit pushy and this was bad, but I thought at the beginning I was pretty nice. He was just so incredibly mean. I don't even mind the parts about not feeling like he loves me, I only mind the parts about how I am being so selfish. I think ANY wife who will willingly go without things including paying student loans on time to let her husband live alone for 6 months is being pretty loving.
He is being ridiculous. I don't have a conversation scheduled with Jody yet, but I think I will for next week now or even Saturday if I can. I am just not sure what I could possibly do at this point, or what advice she could possibly give me. I can send her that message in advance though, so will probably do so.
The bad thing was the call after the IM. I thought I handled it about as well as I handled the IM, meaning reasonably well with a few backslides about things like wanting to see him, wondering what his ideal scenario would be, asking could he not remember any good times. Thing is he CAN but isn't sure if they are all a fabrication of his memory now! He kept saying that I was pushing him into living with me. I said that clearly it was my preference, and that as a person in the relationship I had preferences too that I feel should be shared, but that I wasn't trying to control him.
I just need some inspiration as to my next move...
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Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
