Originally Posted By: theoden
Hoosier,

Well, I think it's probably an exit affair.

Sounds like he was unhappy for a while, but the stimulus to leave is frequently another romantic interest.

Did you know he was that unhappy? I knew my wife was unstatisfied, but I had no clue how deeply unhappy she was.

I think I'm the Wicca basher. I was talking to myself

--Theoden

Yeah, I think so too. I did not know he was that unhappy, but then I was lost in my own unhappiness. As you said, I knew he was unsatisfied. But it's kinda difficult to really know at this point, because he's re-written our history so drastically.

There is, however, the factor of D12, who he was very close to before Wicca Woman. Now he sees her twice a week if she's lucky. He talks to her every night, but seems eager to cut visits short or cancel them. I haven't experienced any angst about this from him except on the Fourth of July. He seems quite content to just do his own thing; this last weekend he didn't see her at all, after promising to "squeeze her in" on Saturday between his other activities and his band gig. So everything has changed for him, even the relationship he claimed to value most.


M60
H52
D20
M14 yrs
OW-old gf from 1986
bomb-5/18/08
H filed for D-9/10/08
D final 4/24/09
xH remarried (not OW) 2012