Working on believing in miracles

[istherehope]

And I KNOW I am going to get blasted on this, but I SO want to reach out to my MIL. I am going to be in the city where she lives within the next month. I just don't think she gets how ridiculous her son is being. Since she and I are friends do you think it is at ALL OK to at least see her and of course not complain about him, but let her know what is actually going on in reality in terms of our finances and everything? I feel like she has a massive pull over what H does, and that she doesn't know how bad off he is at the moment...

BTW H said he wanted to cut off giving his mom money, and he can't even remember how much we were giving her. He doesn't have a CLUE about what is going on! he thought we were giving her like 50% of what we actually are giving her. What do you think if I contacted her only about the checks just to see if she'd received the most recent one since I noticed it wasn't cashed?

ITH