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#1601961 09/24/08 03:37 PM
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I think this must be 30 something threads and I'm not feeling very creative with titles today \:\)

Well I'm trying to get deeper into stage 2 and edge towards stage 3.

I'm feeling positive about this and I hope that within a week or 2 he'll see some new changes, feel comfortable around me more and maybe be willing to go out in public with me again. In other words to take a chance on me.

What do I need to do to reach that???
1. Act as if nothing he does bothers me
2. Have a PMA
3. Joke with him a bit more...basically lighten up
4. No R talk
5. No taking the bait...I'm not a fish damn it \:\)
6. Hold my tongue and think if what I would like to say really will help my sitch

Obtainable? Yeah I think so


Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*

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FIRST!!!!!! I'm NEVER first!!!!!!

Great list Jen! Totally doable!

He does go out in public with you. Tennis, the club, etc.


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Waw! A virgin \:D This is your "first" first.

Yes he does but he said it's only because he "has" to. I want him to "want" to. I embarressed him and myslef a couple of times while out and understandably he doesn't trust me not to do it again.

Time and patience is what I need.


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Oh, embarassed yourself and him? YIKE! That sounds like it might have a juicy story behind it.


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Yeaay Jen!! I love you new set of goals very doable!!!


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Mishka...in March I pushed a whiskey over him in the heat of an arguement, then almost 2 months ago I left him sitting alone in a restaurant because I left in a tissy, and then about 3 weeks ago I screamed at him because his old EA called him (and thats all just this year).....nothing juicy...that's why I've been saying I need to hold my tongue and act as if.


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Do you have anything visual or are you wearing the necklace to help you remember to hold your tongue?


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I knew about the restaurant thing but the rest was news. Keep "fondling" the necklace.


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Good goals Jen. I might copy them! \:\)


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I'm just remembering but yes I'm wearing the necklace...I'm a bit of a drama queen. I think I was a gay man in my former life


Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*

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