At least he is talking to you about the c and other things as well.
I give him credit for wanting to go again. It seems as though he looks forward to it and wants that help.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
I give him a lot of credit for finding someone else as well. I'm very proud of him for going thru with it. And it does seem like he wants help one way or another. I think he thought it was too much at home so he moved in with his parents. Then his parents gave him crap about being a failure, so he moved in with a friend. Now he says that he's moving back home to his parents because he doesn't need to be at the apartment he's in. It seems like he was out trying to find happiness but maybe is realizing his happiness has to come from within?
At least he is living with his parents and not ow. To me that is the worst scenario. And it is one they cannot seem to wiggle out of no matter how much they would like to.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
I still don't know if this female really is OW or not though. I'll never know either unless H changes his story and tells me she is OW. I really don't focus on that though since it only brings me down.
And I should have said that I did not mean to imply that your h has ow. It is just based on what i have seen/heard, and from my own experiences, living with ow makes it more difficult to get out.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Oh no, I know you didn't imply that at all. If this female really is OW and not his room mates gfriend, then I'll be even happier if he's not living there anymore. I know they can still see eachother, but not living there may make it harder.
I've been worried lately on how to rebuild trust after being so hurt and lied to.
He has a lot of work to do in order to regain your trust.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Yep, seems most do. It's hard to keep up the hope you know? I see positives and I've always had it in my heart (gut feeling) that H will be back. I didn't think it would be this long, but hey, whatever.
FG don't focus on the trust now, that will come way later. When you can be in C together and talk things over with a mediator so to speak in the middle.
To me this are all good signs. Remember let h know how proud you are of him, encourage him and show your appreciation. It's that easy, just keep showing it over and over and over.
Your h will like it and notice. Zip the lips about anything for now and let your h do all the talking. You will be amazed!
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"
Hi GG, can you please clarify what you said about being good? You see my sitch as going good? Or the things that H is doing for himself? I got a bit confused.
