I hope you read every word of Dawn's post and take it to heart! Do you realize how unempowering your comment about it was? The more you give into that victim thinking, the more negative you are going to view your world. Woman, celebrate the fact that you have made it this far and look at how much of your life is ahead of you to live happily and healthily?
Comment on why they might not come back. Lots of water under the bridge when you cause a catastrophic tornado in the family. The damages are immense and the guilt they feel for doing it prevents them from working on themselves and repairing the relationships that were wilfully damaged. There's also the reason they left. Cagz, you better not take that personally because I mean it. But just try to view things through their distorted glasses a bit. When they haven't done the hard core self work, how can they possibly see YOU differently when they haven't changed?
Besides, this is a most unproductive line of thought and I want you to stop it. It means you are still stuck and wanting to take a look at the site where the train wreck occurred and has been long cleared. I would much prefer to see you musing about your own possibilities. Once you cease the stinkin' thinkin' things are going to seem lighter and happier.
Now get on with celebrating your birthday!
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
Betsey