I really do not have the money for a DB session, the only reason I can affor counseling at all is because of the military paying for it. I do start my IC next week though. So that should be good. I know she is probably not a DB familiar coach, but at least I can get some things out and learn to control my behaviors a little better.
The plan for right now is send out my little "feelers" here and there and see what is going on. We are having a lot of honest communication right now which is not always easy but is good for our progress. I just need to wait until he feels safe to come out of the cave.
I think we were rushing through the stages and did not really deal with stage 1 all the way and therefore did not have a firm foundation and when a slight bit of trouble came it all fell apart. I will have to remember that for next time. We are still friends and we are still lovers (well not recently! Grr!) but we need to build up that firm foundation before we can really stand in stage 2 and 3 and eventually 4.
Back to the patience game!
Sep how about Oregon? Wanna come visit me? We can go shopping!
