RMG I've read your post more than a few times. and yes, i agree with you completely. as bad as my R has been, i would never have an affair. obviously, STBX is different.
the question that will go unanswered, and really no point getting an answer, is which came first - chicken or egg. did she start the affair and then decide our R was in trouble, or did she feel the R was done and then start the affair?
either way, doesnt really matter. R is dead, W having affair, Ken will be fine.
Ken,
My friend, order does not really matter. The fact is your W is just morally challenged. She CHOSE to do this..... I have known people in horrible Ms that would NEVER have an A because they know it is wrong.......
Our friend figgie said something to the effect that people should share what they are feeling and allow their spouse to address that issue BEFORE cheating....... She is SO right.....
Take Care,
RMG
Last edited by RMG; 09/24/0804:19 PM.
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