Honey, why are you talking to him. You need to think things through without him IMing you. Please stop chatting with him.
What if Dublin wasn't an option? What would you do? Would you go back to the US? Would you stay in Poland? You seem to have a lot of choice professionaly. Let's not focus on your M for a moment and focus on you and your happiness with or without H.
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*