There's also the law of threefold return that says good or bad deeds boomerang back to you threefold. (Karma X 3)
Sounds like Wicca woman's rationalizations are pretty self-serving. Much like your husband's. He's thrown out Jesus's teachings on divorce and the entire Scriptural witness on adultery.
I've perused some books that my wife reads and even though they are syncretistic and new-age, they clearly see adultery as a "crooked" path. They tend to be OK with divorce if a marriage relationship hampers your path or destiny. They view, however, adultery as pretty crappy.
So in an ideal new age kind of way, end you end your marriage "honorably" because it is hindering your growth and then you are free to pursue relationships with others with integrity.
Unfortunately, many people don't really want to exit the marriage or realize how unfulfulling it was for them until they get involved in an affair while they are married.
There are seldom "clean" breaks.
It seems that your H and Wicca woman are trying to expedite the divorce so there can be a semblance of your H leaving for other reasons than to be with another woman. They are trying to make it look like a new age divorce when it's just old fashioned adultery at play.
I know there's some hard-core Wicca bashing here. To be honest, there's a poster on DB who is Wiccan and I certainly honor her tenacity to work on her marriage. She's a real gem. Now if my wife could only turn into THAT kind of Wicca, things would be much nicer.
On the other hand, there are countless instances of people on DB who have Christian WAS. The stories are surreal. One guy's wife, who grew up in a conservative denomination, said to him that God put her an the other man together. Yes, it seems God changed his mind about adultery, divorce and destroying your children's lives in HER case. Another guy's wife I know would go to Mass with her OM. Boggles the imagination.
So before I go being a Wicca-basher, I need to look soberly at Jesus's words saying that narrow is the road that leads to eternal life and few be that find it. I need to look to myself and the God who loves me and ask, "Will I persevere? Will I pass the test?"
