Hi, glad you responded so quickly. It shows you are serious. First of all, this is what you might call a general list for everyone.....not for a specific stitch. So, with your wife living that far away, of course you would have to take that in consideration. This list is for those who are still living under the same roof, but it can be applied to those who are separated. #6 means that you don't need to turn to other mebers of your family and talk about your stitch b/c they tend to take sides (yours mostly) and it is very hard for them to be objective. Then if/when your wife returns home, she will feel embarrased or ill at ease around anyone that knows about your personal problems. Also, it could damage any future R between your family and your W b/c of the information you have given them. This applies to people at work or shared friends. If you have one close male friend that you can confide in.....that would be okay, I think, b/c you need somebody. I indicate a male friend, b/c if you turn to a female at this time, you are very vulnerable to get into an EA.....especially with your wife so far away.
It will take self control on your part to stay away from situation that would tempt you to get involved in any sexual flirting that could lead to a PA.
Your first post was kind of short, so the more you can tell us, the more specific we can try to be about your stitch.
Take care of yourself.
Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
