It seems like she considers you a brother or a dad. You just help out and take care of things like a father would, while she is like the teenage daughter, doing her thing, living her life, texting her boyfriend all the time.
You are such a nice guy!
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
yeah root i understand what you're getting at. the thing is, the more she sees OM acting like an immature idiot and leaving her to fend for herself, the more I become the more attractive choice, IF A CHOICE AT ALL. it's not all cake and ice cream though. she cries about every other day now. people are starting to ostracize her for being pregnant, and I don't paint a pretty picture for her either. I'm the first to tell her everything has happened because of her choices. she knows she is paying for them.
M 31 W 26 M 6 S 6 S 3 Separated 6/2008 Back together 10/2008 All you need is love
I could be a total jerk, and let her sit in our house alone, getting further and further along, wishing OM would come back to her, but I'm not that guy.
M 31 W 26 M 6 S 6 S 3 Separated 6/2008 Back together 10/2008 All you need is love
BC, Your situation of you being supportive reminds of this DBing situation I'm linking below. I think that as long as she responds favorably to your "friendship", keep on doing it. Just think of her as a good friend, you know what they say that "friendship" that leads to love is the best kind. I know this is working backwards, but at the moment it might be the best.
Read this link if you haven't already read it before.
thank you very much for the positive side of things. my wife and I got together and she got pregnant within the month; after that it was moving in, engagement, child, marriage, buying a house. we never established a foundation for a solid relationship so to compensate we tried to keep the excitement going by doing the above mentioned things. we were friends for about 8 years......not really close, you could say acquaintances so we never developed a deep bond. I will read the link though. thanks for taking time to check my sitch out.
"good company"
M 31 W 26 M 6 S 6 S 3 Separated 6/2008 Back together 10/2008 All you need is love
got into it with the W today.......I'm definitely learning; today was the first instance where I didn't care what effect my words had on her mood. I did not tread lightly. I asked W why she was staying at her parents house every night and if the morning sickness was getting worse, and she told me that it was irrelevant and none of my business (see previous post for attitude change). long story short, I told her she was going to be 23 next month and to start acting it, and if she wants to be mean to every guy who doesn't give her things the way she wants that's fine and I didn't care. She was my wife when she cheated and she was my wife when she got pregnant so that's why I am still concerned about her. I told her "I wasn't mean to you when someone got you pregnant and ran away now was I ?"
M 31 W 26 M 6 S 6 S 3 Separated 6/2008 Back together 10/2008 All you need is love
the entire converstaion (one half hour) roughly translated to me being brutally honest, tough love; a first for me. felt good. She says she doesn't want me to take care of anyone but our son and she doesn't wish to be my wife, and its my fault that she still is.
M 31 W 26 M 6 S 6 S 3 Separated 6/2008 Back together 10/2008 All you need is love
