Also, what's up with the letter his counselor told him he should write so he could "focus on the good in me and get rid of his anger"? Must be some exercise in preparing yourself for moving on??? Who knows.
Right - who knows? But if I may take a stab at it, I would think it's a step towards forgiveness.
"...get rid of his anger." - That says there are things troubling him. Issues that he was or is upset about.
Living with anger, bitterness, and resentment is good for no one. Seems to me that this is an exercise to help your H move past all that. To let it go. To forgive. And what better way to achieve this than to focus on and appreciate the positive and good in others. Especially those one might feel who's actions/words were the source of their built-up resentments and frustrations. If you can manage to feel anything positive towards someone you've been angry with, it's easier to feel empathy for them. It's easier to move away from the anger and move closer to forgiving. It helps make it easier to move towards internal happiness.
(((CW)))
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
