RGM.... maybe with some people that's true. Like my husband may have known (even when he insisted he was certain and never admitted feeling otherwise), but I believe my friend was 100% certain, and she never once expressed feelings that she was making a mistake to me or other friends.
When she and her husband were still living together (but had been "separated" for over a year), she even helped him pick out clothes for his first date!!! She had no feelings of jealousy or anger whatsoever. She truly believed she was making a wise decision and felt it was time to "make choices" for herself for once (after spending years doing things for others... a common thing you'll hear from women in MLC).
I think what might make it so hard for these people is it TRULY feels right. And I think they are very good at convincing themselves it is. Unfortunately, it's not until they live through it that they realize the result of their choice and can clearly see what they had.
The lesson you've learned is a good one. If someone wants to go, send them on their way. RMG, did you do that? Are you angry?
You take care too, Running
ROT,
No, I did not just hand my exW her hat. I told her I wanted to work on our M and go to MC.... I also told her how much I loved her and how much I wanted our M to work. I loved her more each day we were together. I loved her more than I had ever loved any woman. She just wanted to blaze off....
Angry? I am not angry. If I were angry or bitter, it would impact my new wife. I was just very disappointed by what type of woman my exW really was.
I am blessed to be married to a wonderful woman who wants to be a loving, caring and faithful wife. She understands it takes work to make a marriage work. She realizes there will be ups and downs. I love her heart so much.
My exW, even at 36 years old, grasped none of that. Do I think she will "wake up?" I would bet my life she will. Will she tell anyone? I doubt it. She is too prideful.
I believe she will at least regret not giving our M of over 12 years a chance.... Yet, she has to live with how she treated me, what she did and how she violated her marriage vows and her Christian beliefs.... Those are her issues...
I am living my life to the fullest...... New W..... New car.... Two cute little dogs.... Great job... Moving into a new 2200 sq ft home soon.... Going back to get my credits for the CPA (I already have a BS and a Masters).... I am likely going to be starting a medical software business with a doctor friend of mine...... God has so blessed me....
Oh, yeah! The exW is living in a small Brady Bunch house she bought for her and OM......... I am sure when she falls asleep at night she realizes it was all worth it....
Take Care,
RMG
Last edited by RMG; 09/24/0802:01 AM.
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