NO, it is me who is "off topic" - surviving the big D is the topic for sure.
YES - I really felt it was unfair. I had to pay him to leave me and run off with maggot. VERY UNFAIR!
Fast forward 3 years (from the divorce). I can honestly say it was the best investment I ever made. An investment in my personal happiness.
Divorce is probably the biggest financial loss for any of us. And it truly sucks when we didn't want it. But in the long run - it's a way of cutting your losses. Losses in personal happiness, satisfaction of life etc. Because who wants to be with someone who doesn't want to be with them.
I never thought I could be this happy. Every day that he is not here is a gift. Because I used to walk on eggshells all the time. When he walked through that door - I never knew what I was gonna get. A lot of the time he was just down, depressed. And I HATED that.
I live in a happy home. I still work. I can earn more to make up for what I lost. But my health and wellbeing are worth more than money. My spirit. My joy. They have returned.
In time you will feel this way too. It sucks but it's worth it.
