Twitched my nose all day - the only time the work left my desk is when I opened the back door and the wind blew it off my desk!
I dropped out of sight for a little while after my D and my friends understood. Your friends will be there for you when you are ready to shoot off an email to them.
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Has family come into play in your sitch? how connected are you to that background? I have a hard time imagining what it would be like, at least in comparison to how my classmates speak.
My parents came here over 40 years ago - initially to study and ended up staying. I was born here and for the most part raised here. I speak Bengali fluently and was raised on Indian food. We use to call Western dinners - special dinners when I was growing up.
My parents are divorced.
My father grew up in a very rural part of Bangladesh (when it was India) - but is very open minded. He is open to arranging our marriages if that is what we want. And he had no problems with The X being German. He was here for me after bomb #4 and helped me get to the point where I was ready to push the D through. He literally carried me at one time where he cooked for me and listened to me go on and on... He actually said after my D that he was okay with me living together with someone w/o getting married and is very supportive of with me adopting as a single parent. He use to spend 6 months here and 6 months in India every year. He bought a place outside of Kolkatta a couple of years ago - but is getting restless! LOL! I am planning on flying him in to Cambodia and meeting him there for our Angkor Wat vacation.
My mother's side of the family - I have uncles that immigrated to Sweden, Germany and here - also roughly 40 something years ago. I have aunts that are of Swedish, German and Dutch nationalities. The X use to be best friends with one of my German cousins - that is how we met when I was in Germany during spring break. She is also open minded in the sense she didn't care that The X was German or that I am D. She is also okay with me adopting as a single parent.
We eat everything - including beef.
Most of my parent's friends are the same way. I think some of the Indians that immigrated here around when my parents did are more open minded - or perhaps they are friends with my parents b/c they are open minded.
The X worked with a lot of Indians. I was always a little surprised at how conservative they were. In some cases - I think it depends on what part of India you are from - some regions are more conservative than others. Some people are more religious than others.
I am afraid I probably haven't given you much insight into your Indian friends... There is a movie Namesake that has a story line that probably parallels more of what my upbringing was like = those of us that were born/raised here are well are both here and there and at the same time neither here nor there when it comes to heritage. We get to make it up as we go along.
