Yes, it seems you and I are kindred spirits, lucky us! lol Arghh! I know exactly how your feeling, and I myself am trying to learn from all the great advice here and NOT do what we both want to do. Which is grab these 2 men by the collar and scream WTF, and why the hell not, and whats your issue buddy.......... lol Now, I am assuming thats what you would like to do as well, but I think im correct in thinking this. lol
It is taking everything in me to slow myself down at the moment in taking the advise of these mentors on the site. Everything that has been said actually does make sense, if you can try and not be emotional about it, but at the same time, that is a TALL order. When everything in me wants to scream and stomp my feet at times.
I've often felt like I was lied to, and almost tricked into thinking I was entering a marriage that was " of course " going to have sex in it. I feel cheated.Now I feel like the joke was on me per say. Which makes me once again want to grab him and scream," why? " At times even ask what is so wrong with me ....... etc..... When I do know it's not me, but very hard to remember sometimes isn't it. Sometimes I hit those funks where I do think maybe it is just me.
Reading all I have read, and listening to all the great advice and learning what others have been through, I am coming to realize that I did contribute to this somewhat. BUT........ doesn't help does it.. when all we want are husbands in EVERY sense of the word. Is that much to ask??
