Robert G]Wife finally served me papers..... also a offense petition. Both are very weak....I was upset at first, but now happy things are finally moving in some direction.
I'm so sorry to hear that you were served. At least now the guessing game of when is over. That was stressful for me in itself!
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She desperately wants me out of the house, but I fear for the children and do not want to leave. There is no grounds to get me out at this time, but who knows what the judge will do. We are considering filing an offense petition against her. Amazing how the person that was once your best friend is now your worst enemy. welcome to the jungle......
Do you have plans for the house? Will she be able to keep it and does she even want it? Do you want it? Or is the only option to sell? Oh, and why are you afraid for your kis?
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I need to stay stronga nd focused. this is the hardest part of this. We have back to school night this evening and i will find it tough not to get emotional as we used to go out for dinner and have great talks afterwards. That was one of the few happier moments we had.
Yes it is very important that you stay focused, not just for yourself but for your children as well. Tonight will be hard no doubt, but you can do it. Save the emotion for when you get back in the car!
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Rough times ahead and need to navigate choppy waters. I am trying to be positive, but its not easy. I do not know how is keeping her composure during this. I do know she is upset and frustrated, but i can't worry about her.
Robert, you've got to understand that she's been gone emotionally for a while now. It doesn't affect her because this is what she thinks she wants and has dealt with all of the what ifs. Of course she isn't a psyhic so she only thinks she knows how this will be. It's not until we are actually living that we make see things from another angle.
Detachment is now complete. i no longer want her back...no matter what. A better future lies ahead. I need peace and love...something i haven't had for 20 years. I am reborn. [/quote]
Ok, you may feel detached but this is still an open wound. Don't think that emotions aren't going to come at you out of the blue, because they will. This is a process, and you have to feel the pain to get to the other side. The good news is that if you deal with it, it slowly becomes less. Try to keep busy when you're not working. Make plans with friends. I also recommend highly looking into Divorce Care. Lotsa of us here have joined and it has made a hugh difference in our lives.
