I am not there yet....mental barriers.....I think when that happens i will know for sure that I am detaching. At this time I have no intention of meeting other women. I think that for anything to happen, a woman would have to make a noticeable move. i say noticeable because honestly, i don`t think I would notice any interest at this point. I am happy for you if you are already there.
John, I can truly understand where you are coming from as well. My fear is that I will all but shut down toward my wife and then she will wake up and want to work on things.
As far as other women go, I notice the interest everywhere I go. Maybe I started moving on a while ago, I don't know. I was flirting with the hot girl at the bank and told her that she should come out to the bar on Thursday night to see my return debut at karaoke, I feel a superstar performance is coming on and then she can ride my coattails to fame and glory. Just fun and games. Maybe she'll come and maybe she won't, I don't really care. If she comes, it'll be fun. If she doesn't come, it gives me something to bust on her about the next time I see her at the bank.
BTW...You are too old for American Idol - sorry. They need an American Idol for older folks like ourselves. I probably still would fall under the William Hung "She Bangs" category.
Best song? Well, the crowd loves Devil Went Down to Georgia while some of the older folks enjoyed Jim Croce You Don't Mess Around with Jim. I'm a low baritone which makes it tough to find something I can sing that isn't in too high a key. I'm thinking I might do Radiohead's Creep. I can scream out some Disturbed pretty good, but, I don't know, maybe some Linkin Park or Primus would work.
i must be old...i don't recognize half of the bands you guys are discussing....and i like to think that i am a music afficionado. Bruce Springsteen turns 59 today....I think that says it all.
Back to your first line....you are afraid that you will have moved on if you meet someone else? As far as I am concerned, either we move on or we wait. Who was it that said there is nothing to fear but fear itself.
Ah, I understand. I'm not afraid that I'll know I've moved on when I'm ready to meet someone else. It is that I'm afraid that I will be nearly to the place of being ready to meet someone else when she has a change of heart and at that point wants to work on building a new relationship. What choice would I make then? For the sake of the kids and our shared history, I might feel obligated to try building a new relationship, yet, having dealt with the pain and hurt and change etc., I might not be all that interested in trying to build a new relationship.
That's what I was trying to say and I wonder if anyone else worries about that kind of question.
