I think that if you still want some independence and to live in a place of your own for a while you should do it. I guess in terms of handling it with H, you could go with Essie's lead and say you want fun etc, and raise the living arrangements at some point when you feel the time is right? Has he said anything about how he wants things to go from now on?
I'm smiling- you and Essie, both in great places!! YAY!!
