H dropped in to visit with D and drop off some $. He called last night after 9 pm and wanted to know if he could pick her up and spend a little time with her. Ummmm--no. Too late, she had trouble sleeping the night before. So he came this evening ~7:30 and they had some time at his place until ~9. He came in and was relatively normal. He seems a lot less tense lately--don't know if it's because he's filed, he knows he'll have his own place soon and won't have to stay in his friends' attic, or if he's getting a lot of sex. Could be any or all of these factors! I have a feeling the "normal phase" won't last through all the divorce stuff, since we're automatically adversaries. I think he still believes it can and will be "friendly" and he won't have to make any sacrifices.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012
My ex thought the same thing. He thought the divorce would be a piece of cake, until he saw things had to be split 50/50. It is amazing how dumb they get during all of this.
Now all he does is complain about how bad life treated him.
He is miserable
The fantasy of OW is gone
Creditors are after him
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Hello, most comforting & positive energy bearing one ! Your words soothe me. Thank you.
What's wicca ? Is she really a witch ?
Hugs
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
Hello, most comforting & positive energy bearing one ! Your words soothe me. Thank you.
What's wicca ? Is she really a witch ?
Hugs
Couldn't sleep well again? Thanks for the affirmation, btw. Hope I can be helpful.
Wicca is, as far as I can tell, a sort of nouveau Druidism, goddess worship, in-touch-with nature but do-your-own-thing. Don't know if they all call themselves witches; personally, I have similar but slightly different word for her....
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012
I was flipping channels last night and something about the "secret lives of women" caught my attention cuz a woman was talking about being a wiccan. She said she can do basically anything she wants as a wiccan as long as she does not hurt herself or anyone else.
hmmm now there is some food for thought, maybe your H's OW does not know the rules.
Me 54 DS19 and DS17 Married 06/1989 Divorced 01/2011
I was flipping channels last night and something about the "secret lives of women" caught my attention cuz a woman was talking about being a wiccan. She said she can do basically anything she wants as a wiccan as long as she does not hurt herself or anyone else.
hmmm now there is some food for thought, maybe your H's OW does not know the rules.
Actually, I made reference to that rule when I emailed her a few months back. And she quoted the rule--do as you will but harm none. It was a bit confusing how she rationalized all that, but because she had talked herself into believing she is emotionally supporting our entire family in doing this, and would harm H if she "withdrew from the relationship" and harm herself and the "healing path she has set for herself." They are both experts in justifying and rationalizing--guess they do have a lot in common! What a convenient "religion" it is.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
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