Close encounters of the MLC kind

[hoosiermama]

Hoosier,

You are talented and bright. And you are in the best place (a job) to look for a a new job.

Your lawyer will take care of you.

I don't think infidelity affects custody or finances, but in some states it might. If it does, see if you can hire a Private Inestigator. There are some online firms that can hack in to your H's email to get further proof.

--Theoden

Thanks, Theo. I can always count on you for positive encouragement!

My L has advised that infidelity doesn't count for much officially, but might before a judge--depending on the judge.

Also--I have found out that I can ask for, and most likely receive, a clause in the custody settlement indicating that D will not meet/spend time with OW for a certain period of time, to give her time to adjust. My IC suggested 8 months, and we can bargain from there. She said this is a relatively common thing to do. This makes me feel somewhat empowered. And since none of the rest of this whole escapade has, I'm definitely taking this. And legitimately so, not being manipulative; this is a somewhat sheltered 12-year-old who has grown up under the umbrella of parish and school, with overtly expressed values; all of a sudden her father goes wacky and leaves us for an old girlfriend who practices Wicca. I think I have a legitimate case.