Hi TxMom, this is one of the hardest journeys we will ever be on. We need to stay strong. Hey T2L, see you joined in. TxMom - T2L is great and has wonderful advice for all. She has helped me so many days when things got really bad. THe best book I read is Divorce remedy. Read the chapters on Mid Life Crisis and Infidelity. Also read the section about the "cheeseless tunnels". It was an eye opener. Then read the whole book. Try to avoid any talk of Divorce with H. Sometimes this just pushes it further than you want to go. Do go to an atty for legal advice. I live in Texas also and unfortunately there is no "legal separation" only divorce. But Texas is a fault state so if need be you can charge him with adultery if need be. The court will not be very sympathetic to him especially with small children. As for your H's statement "he does not believe people will change" - well look he changed (but of course we cannot tell him that!). What we cannot do is a wave a flag and say "look at me - I've changed" because they will not believe. What they will believe is seeing a new improved, strong you in action. Think back to what attracted your H to you originally. Always keep that in mind. I know it will be hard trying to create this perfect image with 2 small children but take one day at a time. Everyone here has your back. I pray for you and for the healing of your marriage.
Me 53 H 50 D16, D29 M 22 years bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H 8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also bomb II - H moves 10/1 expose ow 10/22 D to be final 9-09
