Oprah has a list of top relation issues. Here is #4...

Q. He's married, but he says he's not happy and it's ending. I should stay away, right?

A. Run as though you're fleeing a burning house. Which, in fact, you are.

"He's already showing you he hasn't put enough distance between himself and his problematic relationship," says Young. "If you get involved, he's going to subject you to all his issues, and you're going to be a wonderful dumping ground."

Me 53
H 50
D16, D29
M 22 years
bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H
8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also
bomb II - H moves 10/1
expose ow 10/22
D to be final 9-09