New Thread-Husband Moved in With OW(T2L)

[Trying2live]

Well, folks, Happy 5 months to me. Today is exactly 5 months to the day that I found out. I've made it 5 months, I don't if I should be happy or sad.{{laughs}}. By the way my name is Lea (sounds like Leah or Lia).

I'm really glad, you talked with your daughter and her story really helped me. I think you should go ahead and tell her yeah it's another woman and it's her. Yes get more tips from her and more more more info!

For a few days this week I've really been contemplating just quitting and filing-at least for separation. I even told him in my apology email last week to give me $3000 so I can go file that I cant take it anymore. Do you know he's responded to everything else but not that?!?!?! What should I don about that? I wonder is it because you don't want to get taken to the cleaners, is it you want your cake and to eat it too, or is it you don't want to lose me or ALL of the above? Although he has not mentioned not a single thing of wanting this marriage the entire 5 months. Nothing but blame me be angry and say I'm annoying. Which I don't understand as I do not reach out in anyway. Just respond. Some days I just want say forget you, I don't deserve this.

I don't know. But ya know funny thing. After the last Saturday where I lost my composure, he has actually apologize for his part and is sending me more emails. Mostly about the kids and finances but not horribly mean. Because I have been a stay at home mom and wife straight out of high school(H is my 8th grade boyfriend) I have no schooling or work history. so financially I'm kinda screwed. But I am working on trying to remedy this, by starting my own business. Anyways, he got demoted through this whole thing and his pay is almost cut in half. He said he is trying as hard as he can and if he gets anymore money he will give it to me. He's on a commission 100%. And he also told me to go ahead an take the salsa boot camp I wanted to go to this weekend which technically we can afford even though its only 30$. But at this point it's not going to matter. I don't know why all the small talk. I'm kinda like ick! He just responded today, think I'll wait a few days to email him back.

I'm liking the GAL and the confusion on your H when you don't accept his invitations. Yessss! He's wondering. This seems like its really working with him. Every time you have done this he reacts the same way. He's got to be wondering why you don't jump at the opportunity, why you are joining the gym etc. He's going to start to see that you are going to live your life and he better live it with you.


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I actually got a call from a lady in New York who is on another forum, who was going through almost the same thing and we wanted to share and talk. It helps.
So go pick your daughters brain for all of us!!! had a friend who was an OW too. She said the H broke it off with her then came back and they were together for 6 months. After 6 months my friend who was the OW decided if he can do it to his wife he's probably going to do it to me and broke up with him. I know since these relationships are founded on deception they can only reap deception.