You are right about focusin on that and acting as if. I do need to let him know that I trust him to make good choices while he is gone and then most likely he will. I do not really want him drinking at all but he would never go along with that. One HUGE argument we had while he was gone the first time was about him going to a club and dancing with other people. He said it was not with anyone in particular but it made me sick to even think of him dancing with a group of random girls. Ugh! He still does not think there is anything wrong with that so we will see. I guess the less I know the better at this point. I will probably mention this before he goes but he really should already know where I stand. We will wait and see.
I do not know when he is leaving, neither does he. He said he is hoping to leave in the next few weeks. Whether that happens or not is uncertain. He has been wanting to go for awhile now but it is a matter of getting permission and sorting things out. So we should know more in the next week or two. Then again it could unravel overnight. You just never know with the military. I am proud to be an army wife and yet sometimes it makes me crazy!