I for one think you did a great job last night! That can NOT have been easy!
The one thing that I noticed from your post was your big concern about life on the military base. I know this is easier said than done, but PLEASE try not to focus on this. Remember that what you focus on expands...Please try to act "as-if" your H is not going to participate in anything bad for himself or for the M. It will not do you any good to think otherwise. I am not sure what your beliefs are, but would it really matter to you that much if he were having too much to drink with the guys on a regular basis? My guess is that if he feels the freedom to do things like this, he will not feel the need to take it further. My H has told me he will not date/sleep with other women even though he has been a real a$$ about almost everything else. That said, on a few occasions I mentioned to him that he was not single and he got really annoyed. I know that if I were to keep doing this this would be the one way to PUSH him to start sleeping/dating around.
You will have to maintain your cool. My guess is also that married life is going to look a lot more appealing after months spent with other men.
Do you know for sure that he is leaving? When will you find out if and when?
DB like crazy until that point! You are on the right path now...
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Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
