H moving out!! Crisis I need help

[Trying2live]

Good girl! I know it sounds lame but keep going one foot in front of the next. My H already moved out in May and moved in with OW in August.
Your going to have a range of emotions and it's okay so don't be to hard on yourself. I'd be more worried if you didn't cry. I still cry, just in the shower or late at night so the kids do not feel worried about me.

Yes I think no more questions is a good call. Your not going to get answers you need or want. And think about it, the answers are not coming from clear thinking. I realized that all normal rational thinking is out the door. He couldn't give you an answer about anything if he wanted to and if he did it will most likely be your fault or justification of some sort.

Concentrate on you and GAL. I started a salsa class as part of GAL, i had to force myself. It was the best thing I had done. Find something that you enjoy or haven't done in a while. Anything, dance class, sign up at t gym whatever. Your going to need this to be able to make the long haul.

Become indifferent when he's around. Not rude,stale or obnoxious just indifferent. Act as if you are still going to live your life and be happy. You are competing with the OW who is always happy. As hard as it is appear strong confident and happy. That's what attracted him to you in the 1st place.
In the book I recommended the author, who is Christian by the way, used to own many recovery centers for drug addicts. He ended up with his Doctorate and now counsels couple on marriage and affairs. HE said he realized that he cannot treat the drug addicts any different than the ones who commit the affairs. If you are able to I highly recommend getting the book. It's Surviving An Affair by Dr. Willard Harley.

Yes and find out, if it's applicable what it was that attracted your husband to OW. Feel free to drop by my thread and read some of our posts. Most everyone who is on there is going through exactly what you are going through might be able to pick up some tips or at least know the things you are feeling and struggling over are normal. The thread is called: New Thread-Husband Moved in with OW(T2L).