OK for anyone who wants to look at my proposed email, I'd be really grateful. I'll either send it tomorrow or Thursday, just waiting for the right moment...it would ideally be in conjunction with him bringing up finances first so that it wouldn't be me just sending yet another ignorable email!
Here goes...
"We are in somber shape for this next pay period. This pay period is lower than last due to it not including any bonuses. My student loans aren't on deferment anymore, and we don't have any carryover from the previous paycheck like anticipated. The one piece of good news is that we've paid off significantly more on your tuition by now than we had planned to; I'm glad that's been sorted.
Any suggestions, please let me know. I already took out my personal trainer and gym and lowered the dog-walking expenses by half due to E being on vacation. We are still ending the month with a significant shortfall.
The end of the next month is better due to stock money, so we will be able to pay on a few things, and I will need to pay quite a bit on my card as we have been putting groceries etc. on it and I am behind on payments which is very bad. I'd love your suggestions on how best to use the rest of that money. I am not sure how much it will actually be, depends on the stock price when it sells but at least X.
Also, I noticed that your mom has not cashed her $X check this month. Are you still sending these? Does she need more now that she is commuting from X? What do you think would be the right amount?"
So I threw that bottom paragraph in there about his mom, because I used to be rude about him sending her money, at least in his opinion. He also thinks I blame her for giving him advice to S from me. Family means SO much to him, so thought this would show a nice 180. She's recently moved to a new neighborhood, and the cost of gas might have made her commute higher.
The budget itself is just line items and amounts, no notes or anything.
I know it's a long email, but there are several things I want to convey. Any thoughts?
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Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
