Ok you guys are the BEST!!!!!!!!... I was in a pitty party this morning... cried last night until mid-night (first night husband didn't stay here as he packed up yesterday a few things) - I was feeling so guilty for my marriage failing...
If it wasn't for these emails I would have stayed in that same mood all day.... thank you, thank you!!!
I did read "Torn Asunder" as well and it is all about Affairs and you are right - my husband is text book in his comments... they do state that affairs are an addiction... funny how the husbands don't have the "B@LLs" to tell us before they start fooling around that they are "unhappy" and have been...
Since my husband has only been in this A for 2 months or so I think he is at the height of the affair where emotions are running strong... he can tell me all day that it has nothing to do with her (which it really doesn't) but he would not be leaving or not trying to work on "us" if he didn't have OW... he'd have nothing to lose and everything to gain by working on this marriage... so the OW is part of the problem and clouding his decisions.... and depending how long this affair last he could risk losing everything in the process...
I had to see a lawyer - to file a petition - to hold all our finacnicals status quo - I didnt' trust that once he moved out he wouldn't go and spend our money on the OW.... he says he is in no rush to divorce so hopefully he'll hang tight and give this affair time to run it's course ... He is going to see a lawyer this week too...
I'm going to quit asking "questions" of H... I know he has maid comments about all the questions ... something I think he likes about the OW.. no pressure ( of course there isn't , he doesn't have 2 kids, dog, house, mortgage, bills with the OW)
thanks for the encouraging words and support - I'll update as the week goes on.... I'll need it.
Me: 38/H:40 M:7yrs TG: 10yrs 2Girls: 4yr & 7 month old Bomb 8/22/08 OW/EA/PA 8/23/08 with 25yr old Moved out 9/22/08
