Forrest-I liked the last sentence you wrote so much, I used it almost as a mantra today.
First thing this morning I got an e-mail telling me he wasn't going to spend hundreds of dollars having me served & would just bring me the filed papers to sign. Sorry for the mix up, he wasn't aware they had to be filed before I signed.
I replied that I would like to be served so I know I'm receiving all the correct papers.
After the last angry e-mail, he sends me some "fun" e-mail, pictures of S5 I took at the last game w/his camera, etc.
This guy has pushed me to the mat with all his BS & I'm not buying into his games anymore. The next e-mail cinched it;
"Sunny,
I don't want to keep leaving S5 alone with S16 unless I know what time you are going to be home. If you are going to be home within a specified period of time like say 20 or 30 minutes then fine. But I am not leaving S5 if it could be a few hours. I think that is reasonable. Not trying to pry but this is something I should know as a responsible parent.
I also saw that S5 has a school event tomorrow night and I intend to attend. Please let me know about all such events in the future as I want to be a part of these whenever possible Please advise if this is a problem.
Thank you."
O.K. you want to get out the kid card when I don't put up with your bullying, go for it. He is seeing a side to me that he's never seen before either. Not mean, mad, or emotional, just "no nonsense."
My reply;
H,
It appears by your message that you're ramping thing's up. Funny the timing on this e-mail with you filing. It looks like inferring you have had incidents in the past where I left S5 with S16 for hours, or that a 16 year old, who's also his brother is somehow endangering him. This has never been the case.
In January there was no problem, according to your post;
"If you want to grab a cocktail after we feed the boys let me know. We'll have to get S16 to baby-sit but I'll pay him."
As far as a specified time, we can do that, no problem. If you can pick him up at 6 p.m. & drop him off by 7:45 p.m., I or S16 will be waiting.
Sunny
This last e-mail came shortly after;
No, not at all. It just sounded like you would be out late. I trust S16 well enough but if you were going to be late I wouldn't want to leave S5 that's all.
There have been no past incidents of concern. You are welcome to save this e mail as evidence to your benefit.
I AM NOT trying to set you up.
Fifteen minutes after this was sent he was at my front door, frantically trying to unlock the front door (It's glass).
There is no backing down for me. I told him to go ahead & D me if that's what he wants, what he can't do is have all the benefits of being married to me afterwards. Nope, it doesn't work that way, I get S5, walk them to the door & ask him to please drop S back at 7:45pm. He asks if he can stay & watch a program with S after. "No. Please have him back on time." Comes back on sched. & wants to know the x's for the school picnic tomorrow evening & should he bring an extra chair for me?? "No, I have my own, thank you."
"What he did.. What he is doing.. has no effect on who you are."
