New Thread-Husband Moved in With OW(T2L)

[Trying2live]

Hello there!
Just back from football practice with the lil guy. I guess he's not little just little to me.
Well friend prepare for Daughter to possibly be very upset. I hope that H is going to tell the kids with you there. I would ask if you both could do that together so you know what's being said to your D15.

My son during 3rd month of visit says to me, "mom I just know dad will come to his sense". I chose to tell him something like this. Son, that's great to have hope because it's better than hating but I want to be honest with you and tell you it doesn't look to good. I'm not sure that Dad is coming back but we're going to be ok no matter what dad's choice is. Then at the beginning of august when he moved in with OW my son said I prayed that dad would come home. I said again, son that's very sweet of you, you have a great heart and we should always pray for dad, but dad has moved in with her so it doesn't look to good but we're going to be ok. I think honesty is the best policy. Truth always prevails. Children respect truth and it comforts them. They see clearer that we do.
I'm so glad you are joining the gym. 3 days a week is great and it's somewhere to go and be unavailable. Be sure to do some resistance training(weights or weight machines) Lean muscle burns more fat in its resting state than fat does and also helps keep your bone density as we get older. And regardless what anyone says weight lifting will make you bigger is a huge myth. Muscle is small than fat. I've weight lifted since I was 16 and trust me you'll want to do it. There's your GAL gym tip of the day{{laughs}}.
As far as the dating thing. Its weird. You know there's like this pressure you feel and its not like from anyone. But just like you feel like you should move on and date. But I've made a pact with myself that I will not until I am fully healed and I feel fully confident secure and happy as a single. I would personally stay clear of the beach guy. I have friends who dated super fast after and I hear their stories and I think no thanks. Yeah sometimes I feel lonely but slowly I am starting to adore the quiet time at home. I'm using it to create a family website. Its fun.
I also wanted to share this with you. It seems like almost 70-80% or higher of individuals going through what we are going through has the alcohol issue involved in it. So my husband says this to me after revealing. He said I had to drink more to kill the guilt and more the drank the less I felt for you and the more I felt for her. So that's why the drinking has probably started.
And....since you are in a fault state-WORK THE SYSTEM GIRL!!! Legal stress kills the magic of the fantasy land they live in.
If you are to overly nice he's going to cake eat for a while. Its a term someone told me when they don't commit to anything because they know your going to be sitting there. Remember he needs and accurate picture of D. Oh heck yeah I changed the locks. Hey sorry bud you chose to vacate the family. I refuse to have him come in and out as he pleases I have a life(or at least I'm getting one hee hee). IF we were divorced he surely would not have a key nor would any other spouse who did the same. He must schedule around you as do all divorced people. I re-coded the garage door opener. The directions are on the actual machine hanging up that opens the door. Its pretty easy. Yes my husband was mad and I made no excuse and gave no explanations. He said my key and opener doesn't work and I said yeah I had the locks changed and walked away.

If you need someone to talk to on that day I can email you my phone number. I will be watching for you to post that day. Just know that it may be hard but it may be easier in some ways. I don't know how you guys do it with your spouses around. I am so glad I don't see him. I can concentrate on getting stronger myself.

Jgrind I like the joint apology thing, gonna do that for sure next time. I'm just so used to always apologizing I'll take responsibility for the whole world.

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Twin hope how are you?

Marisol hope you are doing well. If we get to 100 It will shut us out and I'll restart another thread. Just giving everyone a heads up. Somewhere in the subject will be (T2L)....Take care friends. Tomorrow is a new day with new mercies for us all.