All I can say is that in my H's case, he has obsessively been reading self-help books and trying to "fix" himself. So, if the amount of effort that a person puts into the process makes any difference on the timeline, I'd expect this one to be resolved more quickly than most. He is also seeing a Psychotherapist. He said he'd wanted S since March and had been unhappy for 1 year, so assuming this was true and he just didn't bother to say anything, then MAYBE there are only a couple of months remaining. I can see the signs retrospectively like most of us probably can...
OK I won't tell H not to come to Poland, just thought it would raise my mystique factor a lot! You're right though, he wants control over EVERYTHING. Even Jody commented on this...I don't expect him to come anyway. He just throws random things into conversation, and as he doesn't seem to be living in reality, I cannot IMAGINE him actually planning a trip. I guess if he did plan a trip, it would be momentous enough to be worth going into debt and getting into a tiff over...He IMd me a few weeks ago and thought I was still in Dublin when I was back in Poland. He also has no clue about when I am coming back for good. This seems to be like "D-Day" for him.
Anyway thanks for the post. FWIW it sounds like more men in MLC return to the marriage than those who aren't. I still have good feelings about your sitch, unless you've moved on to greener pastures...:)
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Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
