Why does H think the budget issues are your fault? Just skimming the most recent posts it seems as though you have control of the budget? Is that right? If so, I think the 180 would be for him to take control of the budget or to make the decisions about spending etc. for a while. Would that be something you could do?
I wouldn't try to put H off coming to Poland, but just leave it to him. if he decides he wants to pop over that's probably a good baby step (and you can always be difficult about timings etc as a result of work or your excellent GAL over there). If he doesn't come you won't have lost anything. I just get the feeling he wants some control over things and you telling him not to come because of the money might seem to him as though he's being told what to do?
JMHO though.
Bad news if he IS having an MLC- most take around 18 months to play out from an S from what I've read on the boards (if not longer). I don't think they all have OW- there are lots of other plasters they take up, I guess. You know, I was sort of relieved when I realised my H was having an MLC as it explained a lot of his behaviours (there was really nothing in our R to make him go as he has), but now I wonder. If it had been a result of things in our R, me, things I did, I could have fixed them and he might have been drawn back. As it is, I've fixed what I needed to, and now the only thing for it is to wait, compliment, wait, compliment more, wait more and so on. It's a long haul! I don't mean to be discouraging, BTW. I just really hope it is a semi-MLC for your H and it resolves quickly!
