New Thread-Husband Moved in With OW(T2L)

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Hi T2L and Jgrind, so good to hear from both of you. I have mixed feelings about not telling my Ds first. I think I should tell my D28 because I am scared she will "go off" on him. I would like to make it into a Dbing for her. She is very emotional and worried about me being here in Texas alone. I know she will not appreciate H leaving me here knowing I won't leave till D15 graduates.
D15 I am so so worried about since she keeps saying "everything will be fine I know it", I don't know how she will react. She might be angry at both of us. 15 is such a tough age. I have tried to soften the impact these past weeks saying that "daddy, is not happy", "Daddy, wants some time alone so he keeps going out" blah blah blah..What I really want to do is hit H in a head with a rock and bring him to his senses!

T2L, I always pictured you talk and mighty, now I have to picture you "little but mighty". 5 feet! Also any tricks/tips about weight, dieting, let me know. I will take any information that will help. I am not a "weight watcher" person and just sortva using portion control up to this point, but I have to "keep it going". I have a goal of how much I want to lose and stay focused till it happens.

On Sunday after, H asked me to go to sports bar to watch Giants game (my team) and Dolphins (his team), he drank 2 beers (remember he "used" to be an alcoholic), I never said a word or gave lecture. I left to give the girls a ride to soccer game, he met me there and I am sure he had one additional beer. After game he takes D out to eat and comes home and passes out for a couple of hours. I take my walk on the beach, I get home and he is "out", D says he went to CVS (already went once in the morning), he disappears for 1/2 hour to call the OW. I say nothing when he gets home and he falls back to sleep. I went to bed about 11 pm, he gets up and goes on computer to catch up on some work. I sent him a DB e-mail on Friday which said, "I noticed in the last few meetings that you and your team are getting the respect you deserve, I am happy for you" -- he opened it up at 12:30 am. He came to bed about 2 am, In the morning he told me he had much trouble going to sleep. I think the e-mail got to him and he was thinking about everything. (I hope) --
Today I was starting to freak out again and panic about H leaving, so at lunch I hauled my big butt out the door and went and signed up at the gym on base. So my plan is going 2/3 times a week during lunch so I don't sit and obsess where H/OW are during lunch, and H won't know where I am. And the added benefit I can see all the Military guys working out as eye candy to keep me motivated. LOL I need to be more unavailable during work, which is difficult since we go to at least 2 meetings a week together.

T2L, you actually changed the locks? I am going to ask for his key/garage door opener/house charge card when he leaves. If he fusses I will tell him that I need privacy also.

JGrind, you are right about using We instead of I in saying sorry. I think that is a brilliant suggestion. I agree in checking attys. I did let H know if we go the D route, I am hiring my own legal atty. I will not mediate. I want him to know that this will not be easy as he is being told it would be.

I want to thank all of you on this post for all the motivation we give each other. We keep talking about GAL and it does sink in and we do encourage each other. I don't know what I would do without our group...seriously. It helps me look at things with a different perspective. I am glad we can help each other when we have bad days. I still look forward to the good days. Keep the faith...