I have a friend of mine who is telling me that based on his sideline view of a number of divorces, I should be the one to file first. I'm not sure about that.
My son's birthday is Oct. 7th and I don't want to ruin his birthday, and I do want to consider a few things. So, I'm planning in my mind right now to confront her on Oct. 9th which is the Thursday after my son's birthday. Between now and then, I have an IC appointment and I plan to talk to a lawyer to see if there is any harm in waiting to file until after the confrontation or whether it is wiser to file first. I also need to balance what the lawyer says against what I think is best for the kids and for maintaining a cordial working relationship with my W. In either case, I'm resolute in my decision to confront her about her behavior on October 9th.
I knew about this months ago and I did nothing because I was afraid to be without her and for the sake of the kids. Now, I'm no longer afraid to be without her and the kids aren't getting what they need from me or from her. They aren't getting what they need from me because I'm busy dealing with her stuff and they aren't getting what they need from their Mom because she doesn't spend any time with them. Things need to change, and I've come to the place where I'm no longer willing to wait in the hopes that things will change without some sort of input into the system.
