Well...here's the odd thing...I've already got this T-shirt from my previous M...that M didn't end horribly (as this one may), but the issues were similar - D and a child.
The main mistake I made back then was not doing enough to protect my rights as a father - that's changed since then - but it's really vital to let a good L do the work - when it gets emotional, when you try to be compassionate or do what is right - you can unintentionally set yourself up to be hit hard. My first W did that - we were civil, agreed to so many things, and then when her L got involved - it was like someone suddenly started hurling chitt at me - and I just could not believe that she was a willing participant - but she way - and it made a civil D into a short-term nightmare.
Hang in there - stay strong - and continue to be true to the man that you've become. You're a good man, KenF - and your W and L will be oligated to doubt it and try to harm your positive impressions of yourself - so be sure to prepare for that possibility - some things you have said in the past - some things that could in no way have been harmful - may come up now as examples of you're being a harmful person - it's mad making - but you have to keep the anger under control.
We're here for you...even though my D from first marriage was nine years ago...I remember how it felt...and I also know how wonderful my relationship is with my S11 despite that D.
