I hear you about the swings from I should file to I am staying for the kids.
I am not sure i read all your threads but you have the same type of MO that I have / had. To recap, you know that your W is committing adultery now and has done so in the past. However, you are not willing to confront her with this becasue you think it will break up your marriage?
Ok., you know what i have been through and you know that I think alot like you in many ways.....this no confrontation mode puzzles me though. in esence you are saying if and when she decides to stop then maybe I'll take her back. So I will ask you a question you asked me....how much longer are you going to put up with this. Dan, please don't get me wrong...I have given my XW all the chances in the world and even forgiven her for what I thought was a fling. Honestly, I feel sorry for her now.....she has to live with what she has decided. In the past I would have said to anyone that presented this type of situation to me..."get the hell out....are you effen stupid waiting around?" Today however, after having gone through quite a bit of $h!t myself, i realize that it is much easier to talk when your own emotions are not involved. So....for what it is worth Dan and with all do respect...you know what needs to be done.....
Good luck man.....i don't care how much of a rotten husband you were....you should not have to endure this type of behaviour.
