Ya know, when my parents D'd. I was so mad at my bio Dad. But....I had been mad at my Mom for years for putting up with his BS. So, I really was torn. However, my Mom who had always been a SAHM (there were 4 of us and my Dad was in the military so we moved nearly every year) went out and got a decent paying job, eventually remarried a wonderful man and thrived. My Dad who had already been on his way to being an alcoholic did become a full fledged alcoholic, couldn't hold a job after he retired from the military, cheated on his new wife (she was OW) and died at 53 of a heart attack. And.....I have to admit that I did feel sorry for him. Sooooooooo, I guess I can understand where D is coming from. But, it makes me angry too because I've worked since I was 10 yrs old and at times I worked 2 or 3 jobs at a time when I was a single mom. And X could do that too but instead he does nothing and that inspires her pity????
