thanks for your post. I do have hope that my WAW will wake up rom this and realize where her true happiness is. She is very depressed and unhappy according to firends, her mother and my oldest daughter who told me that the woman she had talked to was not her mother. she is different. Went to my grandsons birthday party on Saturday. she doesn't have monety to even buy him a present. So I bought the present from both of us. She tried some small talk on me at the party, I answered her cheerfully and then moved on to be with my kids. My daughter caught her looking at me in almost a dreamstate kinda of look. She has lost a lot of wieght (she already thin) and her face is drawn her hair is thin I think from dying it too much. She is running around with a 31 year old, 3 years older than my daughter. She has been acting like she is 21 for the past couple of years and I had written it off as a phase, didn't even consider MLC. She is still telling people its over between us, but always adds, some people get back together even aftr 1 or 2 years. My mother in law says she sees the conflict in her daughter, but it will not come to a realization until she sees her affair with this guy as nothing more than passing emotion that she needed from me. She had told one of her friends that at first it was just talking and texts, but now she has fallen in love. He lives with his mother, seprated from his wife of 10 years and their son. he is over his wife's house everyday cutting firewood for her and his son. Sounds to me more like he is making sure he has somewhere to go when this thing with my WAW ends. People are telling me to hang tough, they all believe she is coming back to me and believe she may already be wrestling with that thought. I know there are no guarantees, but I love her too much to give up all hope. I have just found out that a woman at our camp ground has a thing for me and has for a while. when she foud out last month that me and my wife were having issues , she apparently had made a couple of "hits" on me that I was unaware of because I wasn't looking. My kids don't know if their mother will come back to me. My older daughter says she has most likely slept with this guy and why would I want her back? If my wife is truly in MLC (which I believe and so do most of her friends and family) then the WAW syndrone is an effect of this according to what I have been told. I need to know if I should really be holding onto hope. I also want to know from any WAWs if the confusion and conflict that you are going through involves looking at the leaving as a mistake and the if the thought of it being a mistake and a possible PA would keep you from coming back? Does the guilt of leaving, having an affair and rationizing that maybe your marriage is worth fighting something tat will bring you back?
