I think probably the best way to handle what info is shared with kids is this: Imagine you are reconciled and all is well. Then ask, what info would you want to have been shared with the kids and how would you want to have shared it? If you share that info in that manner, I think you'd probably be doing the best you could for your kids.
I am glad you brought this up, b/c this is how my therapist and I came to the conclusion on how to talk to he children.
X was told how I would proced with telling the children,about the Divorce. and he said ok.
He admitted to them lying about his GF, that was there from the beginning.
As for our marriage, I wanted the kids to know, my part of the demise. I, with the therapist told my children, I felt that they needed to know that their father was not ALL at fault, it was demise on both our parts. The lying of the GF was wrong, and they asked me, I told them the truth. I told X what i told the children also.
Blech, this is all so difficult.
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