With xh it's all about "I want to be left alone", "I want to do what I want", and "I need to be me". I didn't really "allow" this to happen in the M and now he sees this "freedom" as something he wants more of. Somehow he will have to see that we can have a new M and his needs are important....one day. This is a perfect example of actions vs. words.
My little one began 1st grade today (although in NA this would be 2nd grade) so now she's with the "big kids" in the Primary section and no longer in the Preschool section of the school. She looked so grown up sitting at her desk that I almost cried.
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
I just have SUCH a good feeling about your situation. If you really can give him those things he was missing out on in the M, I am sure he will come around. After all you share a child, AND he tells you he loves you :). I don't know of many WAS's on this board who do that!
That's sweet about your daughter :).
ITH
Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
Thanks ITH...I have a lot of hope. If he does come home it will have to be for the right reasons. I'm still worried a bit about the apartment he's supposed to be moving into. Setbacks keep occuring with it though Maybe he's not meant to move there???
He has a new gift and I guess its from the girl who he's supposedly moving in with since she just got back from Spain. It's a binder/catch-all for his course materials. It's been in the back seat of the car for more than a week but it's still in the plastic bag it came in? I think it's not meant to be a "special" gift because I'm sure whoever gave it to him would have wrapped it nicely. If someone gave me a nice case I'd use it right away not keep in hidden in a bag in the car... Yes over analysing I know.
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
I should add that "gifts" is not his LL so whoever gave it to him is going for the wrong LL...lol I do believe it was this girl because she's given him little things before too (she gave him chocolates one time and D ate most of them)
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
Maybe he's not meant to move there???