Did you do anything exciting this weekend? I'm kind of lacking inspiration myself at the moment so don't really know what to suggest about the finances. If you need to email him do, but if it isn't essential I would probably just leave it for the moment, after all this is supposedly space time for him. But if it is something that needs addressing do it.
All I can say is that I understand your frustrations
I won't email him yet...For me this is a pretty big 180 that I am not even offering him information on our IM chats. I did not tell him a thing about what I did this weekend. Of course this may just make him believe his own BS that we have nothing to talk about now, but just trying to see whether me showing true distance has any impact. I just don't have a clue now where his head is at.
I'm thinking of that email more for when I get closer to the point where I have to make a decision on Dublin. Honestly I am pretty close now as I am going to have to buy a plane ticket soon, and tell my boss when I am coming home. I'm just so freaked out to tell H, who is living in this la-la land where I am just here indefinitely. He is like a skittish rabbit, and I don't want to frighten him away, and I also need to think about what will be best for me when I get back. Ugh. If he were TRULY committed to the joint sessions we could talk about these issues then. I just need inspiration or a miracle at this point.
This weekend was pretty uneventful. I have no money :), so went to the gym and hung out in the local coffeeshop.
Did you have a nice weekend?
ITH
Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
Oh and another forwarded email from him where, you guessed it, he has been told that we have overpaid on his tuition for this semester, and that the rest isn't due until January. It's about time he realized this.
Anyway, I will not be responding to this either. GRRRRRR. It's all I can do not to say "I told you so"...
ITH
Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
Oh and another forwarded email from him where, you guessed it, he has been told that we have overpaid on his tuition for this semester, and that the rest isn't due until January. It's about time he realized this.
On the plus side, at least it is not you having to tell him. That is very annoying. WAS's seem to have a warped view on reality and practicality sometimes.
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I'm thinking of that email more for when I get closer to the point where I have to make a decision on Dublin. Honestly I am pretty close now as I am going to have to buy a plane ticket soon, and tell my boss when I am coming home. I'm just so freaked out to tell H, who is living in this la-la land where I am just here indefinitely. He is like a skittish rabbit, and I don't want to frighten him away, and I also need to think about what will be best for me when I get back.
I did talk to Jody about this last week. To be honest even she wasn't exactly sure what I should do. She said that I COULD try telling him that I had heard everything he'd said, understood that we weren't emotionally married at the moment, and that I was coming home for financial reasons so that we could continue to maintain the house and our bills, especially highlighting his tuition. However we both think that if he does decide to come to Poland, this could improve the dynamic. So, I am trying to wait a week or 2 before formulating a plan to see if he does make this decision.
We also talked about whether I should prolong my time away, by maybe taking some vacation days in the US. At this point it seemed to make sense for me to come home at the time where he has the most going on, and is the least likely to freak out. He has a week long break right after I am due to come back. This would give him time to sit around and ruminate. So, unless something major happens in the next couple of weeks, I may stay longer in the US and come back in the middle of his school week, so that there is less of a chance of him going ballistic and moving to a friend's house or something. The very best thing would be if we never had to to talk about it and I just returned home as he said "I want to just LIVE!" as if he were a teenager or something...Avoiding R talks is definitely the best.
Anyway, still hoping some inspiration will strike, or my distance with H will create some kind of miracle. I may even go to the US without telling him anything about it at all. Ugh, just starting to worry about my career as I have basically been "on break" for the past 3 months,
ITH
Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
