It sounds like an emotional time. Your W is trying to justify her feelings big time. She has every reason to do so. Who knows why she shared that with you - it could have slipped out, she could have said it because she feels comfortable with you, or she could have said it to see what the reaction would be. This is where it gets really, really hard and I can't say I did all that great at it. Best you can do is be true to yourself. Live your life and make of it what you want while being true to the principles and values you hold. Don't let the game of second-guessing feelings and emotional states take you over. Find the higher power within yourself and what you want. Pursue that. Life is a blessing - we all make mistakes, do dumb things, fail. We can't paralyze ourselves in looking back, but must find momentum in the present and future.
Working out is good. It helps to distract. I ride my bike 10 miles a day and then either swim or run for an hour. Also go for a walk in the evening. It really has helped to clear my head - not just from sitch, but from work and life in general. Let's me ask questions of myself without other opinions involved.
